Dating in college. Often portrayed as exciting and full of possibilities in popular media. The reality for many students at the University of Denver is more complicated. Our interviews with DU students reveal a dating culture shaped by busy schedules and uncertainty about what people are truly looking for in relationships.

Sophomore Leo described the dating scene at DU as challenging. He said that many students appear isolated and reluctant to put themselves out there.

“I feel like everyone’s a little hidden and closed off.”

Leo explained that his involvement in club rugby has helped him expand his social circle. Through social gatherings, he has been able to meet people he may not have encountered otherwise. His experience highlights the role student organizations play in helping students build connections on campus.

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For sophomores Kira and Mia, DU provided a successful relationship. The couple met during Orientation Week outside Lighthouse, a popular gathering spot near campus. They began dating the following summer.

Like many college couples, balancing a relationship with academics and social obligations can be difficult.

“There’s a lot to balance,” Mia said. “Friends, homework, all the academic work, and dating.”

Despite those challenges, both emphasized the importance of communication in maintaining a healthy relationship.

They encouraged students interested in dating to be honest about their feelings and willing to listen to their partners during disagreements.

“Communication is key,” Kira said. “Always be honest and try to work together on problems instead of holding things against someone.”

Their perspective suggests that while college relationships require effort, they can succeed when both partners are committed to understanding one another.

Junior psychology major Lizzie Lesoing offered another perspective on DU’s dating culture.

She believes students generally have plenty of opportunities to meet potential partners through social events and mutual friends.

“I think it’s easy to meet people,” Lesoing said.

However, she noted that making connections is only part of the challenge. Understanding another person’s intentions can be much more difficult.

“I think it’s difficult to tell what they really want from you,” she said.

Her observation reflects a common concern among college students navigating modern dating. While social opportunities are abundant, uncertainty about commitment and relationship expectations can create confusion and frustration.

As DU students continue to build friendships and relationships on campus, their experiences suggest that finding connection may be less about opportunity and more about understanding what both people are looking for in the first place.